She may make pregnancy look good, butVanessa Lacheyinsists the path to parenthood is filled with its fair share of bumps.
For the actress, who is expecting her second child — a girl! — with husbandNick, one of her toughest moments came while pregnant with her now 2-year-old sonCamdenJohn.
“I remember asking Nick, ‘Is something wrong with me? I’ve wanted this my whole life and I’m forcing myself to have those feelings.'”
Instead of becoming frustrated, Vanessa used those quiet moments to soak up time with her newborn.
“A friend reminded me that infants are learning everything for the first time,” she explains. “So who am I to say, ‘Hurry up and eat. We have to go?’ I tried to look at that time as an opportunity to love on him.”
Now that she’s set to welcome her second child just after the holidays, Vanessa is more confident in her parenting role and wants other mamas to embrace the exciting moment in their lives.
“Worrying is a waste of time. Once Camden was born, certainfears calmed down,” she says. “I no longer thought, ‘Will I be able to do this?’ My instincts really did kick in.”
She adds, “We stumble and make mistakes, too, but that’s what learning is. That’s the beauty of it. Every mother out there knows what she’s doing, whether she believes it yet or not.”
Oh, and one more thing, she adds: Don’t let fellow mothers and their “best moments” on social media put a damper on your day.
“Don’t feel like you’re not doing enough when you see a mom posting about making applesauce after you bought it,” she says with a laugh. “It’s fine! Just for raising a little human being you should be commended.”
— Anya Leon
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source: people.com
